Attracting and Seducing Women: How to Use ‘Option Limitation’ to Maximise Your Success

Getting girls to feel an attraction for you – that isn’t simply based on your looks, the contents of your wallet or the car you’ve got parked outside – can be really tricky.

After all, how are men supposed to know what each girl’s looking for without asking?

If you DID ask, you know your chances would be small, after all, no girl wants a guy approaching her with needy questions – she wants a confident man who somehow seems to know what she’s after and can give it to her.

So how do you do it?

How do you become the man that effortlessly exudes confidence, dominance and presence, without turning into an arrogant poser or desperate wannabe?

The answer lies in psychology. It’s at the heart of all persuasive social situations, and absolutely central to the success of any guy’s attempts at attracting and seducing women. Quite simply, by learning the CORRECT psychological rules, principles and tactics, any guy can play and WIN at the game of seduction. For example, let’s look at one such psychological technique, that used correctly boosts any guy’s chance of getting a girl’s number or hooking up with her at a later date by at  least 50%, each and every time he uses it. It’s called option limitation and works on the following principle of human nature:

When someone’s presented with only a single choice, often their natural reaction will be to rebel against it and go their own way. However, when given 2 or 3 options, the opposite occurs: they feel their intellectual freedom has been respected and they make their choice from the variety of options they’ve been presented with.

You can use this universal psychological principle when picking-up or seducing a woman by carefully constructing how you pose important questions or phrases while talking to her.

For example, most men think saying: “Can I have your number?” is an okay way to finish a conversation that’s gone well with a girl. But a much more powerful and effective way of saying the same thing would be to use option limitation. Something like: “It’s been nice to meet you. Shall we swap numbers or maybe grab a bite to eat and a drink tomorrow?” What you’re doing is presenting the girl with a choice between good and better – whichever she says yes to, you win. If you only give her one option, as in the first example, she’s likely to create her own alternative, which means there’s a chance she won’t say yes to the option you gave her. When she subconsciously recognises that she’s been given a choice between multiple outcomes, she feels her intellectual freedom has been respected and she chooses one of them.

So, always use option limitation to give the impression there’s a variety of options available to the girl – even though each one is fine as far as you’re concerned. And to strengthen the effect of option limitation, always try to separate the choices you give the girl with the word “or.”  When people hear “or” they automatically recognise that they need to make a choice, and therefore do just that.

Option limitation is just one example of how, whether they know it or not, men who are successful with women CREATE that success for themselves – not through luck or good fortune.

Blogs: The Coolest New Dating Tool.

Creating A Blog

The simplest way to do a blog is by opening a free account at Blogspot or a similar web service; there are also a few dating sites that are starting to let people blog on their services, though they generally charge a fee. Be certain to do all the basic work, like posting a picture or at least some sort of image to set you apart, and writing your bio.

Now the real work begins. You can make your blog a simple online diary, where you record your daily deeds, or you can write some of your politics, or collect weird news stories and post them online. The only critical thing, if you’re going to refer potential online dating site browsers to it, is that it must reflect who you really are. Never misrepresent yourself; it only leads to a lot of misery on both your part and your potential date’s!

Writing Ideas For Your Blog

Don’t know what to write? You can post absolutely anything you want, even snippets of songs you’ve heard. Do you write poetry or stories? That can go up. Or you can write about what happened to you today, or about your favorite hobby, a celebrity, or a charity you work for. Or you can focus on some of the common blog topics.

A lot of people focus on a certain type of news, generally something they have an inside track on. This is what makes bloggers so formidable a news source. Do you work for a large pharmaceutical company? Don’t ever give away corporate secrets or sneak around, but you can blog about what it’s like, or what the real scoop is on the drug that’s being panned in the news today. Do you have a really fascinating volunteer position with, say, search-and-rescue dogs? You can write about what it’s really like going out to search for someone and finding them. If you think about it, everyone has something fascinating about themselves that they can write about.

If that’s scary to you, or you really can’t think of anything, write about the things you’d like to do. Become a virtual tourist, and write about whitewater rafting with links out to pictures or tour companies. Or write about luxury boats. Share your passions so that your readers, and potential dates, can find out what you love.

What Not To Do In A Blog

Whatever you do, don’t write depressing or angry stuff. No one wants to read about how miserable you are because you don’t have a wife, or how much you hate your job and nothing else. Instead, write about your hopes and dreams, about your idea of the perfect woman (be honest), and about the things you hate about being single and having to date. You’ll almost certainly find people who feel the same way. And it’s having common ground that helps people begin talking online and dating offline.